I thought I was going to die of loneliness, the pain was too much to bear and it feels like nothing’s going to work. Like the world is going to end right before your eyes. Well soon enough you will also realize that the world didn’t end and that people change – people leave and you remain where you are… and right at that moment you are alone.
You will realize that maybe it is better to be alone for a while because you just got too tired of trying to be better for everybody. You just got tired of everything and you decided to distance yourself from everyone. You either sleep, go to work go home take care of the kids, read articles online or watch your favorite TV series – mine would be watching KDrama, GoT, read books or start a new hobby that you can do on your own like I learned how to make accessories and learned to play the guitar, ukulele. You will feel that being alone isn’t as bad as you thought it was. That life gets better.
There will also be times when you feel that it’s so empty inside and there’s peace. Like the dawn where everything is quiet, calm, cooler and lighter. And there are times when you are excited, hyped or you overthink about a lot of things which is normal. And then you go back to being calm again. This is a part of that process I called healing alone. And healing alone worked really well for me.
Here are five benefits of being alone after you had a not so good life experience:
YOU GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO THINK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED. Or it can be plans for the future, what you want to do and what you really want. You learn to appreciate the time you give to yourself and you feel good about it.
YOU CHANGE FOR THE BETTER, GIVING MORE TIME FOR YOURSELF AND LESS DRAMA. As soon as you get used to doing things on your own, living alone will make you realize that small issues don’t bother you at all, but you will also learn that overreacting to certain issues is not a good thing so you separate yourself from all the negativity and drama and just live as simple as being alone.
YOU MAKE AN EFFORT TO UNDERSTAND THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU. When you are alone, you become more aware of your surroundings especially with other people. You become observant and make an effort to understand people around you. You become more forgiving.
YOU BECOME MORE CREATIVE AND LESS STRESSED. You become more focused with work or your business and not too distracted by the daily responsibilities and issues of being in a relationship. This is important because all opportunities are open for you.
YOU LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF AND APPRECIATE THE BETTER YOU. Loving yourself is a good thing, when you fill yourself with love and respect it will show. Your skin is glowing, you are always smiling you become more friendly with everybody. So when this happens, you become more loving and giving to others. Other people will notice and since you learn to love yourself and be happy without someone to fill that need for you, you now have love to give. When you have love to give, it means that you’re ready to take the next step of finding someone who will appreciate the better version of you.